Over the past year I have seen more than the comfortable amount of marriages fail. I don’t think divorce is really ever an outcome that people are comfortable with, but in my experience with what I have known of marriage and what I was raised with,
divorce. doesn’t. happen.
but unfortunately it does. A lot. I am young, and most of my married friends are at the most hitting 5 year anniversaries, and others are hoping they will make the next week let alone, the next year. I feel as though I have watched marriage after marriage fail, and in under 5 years. Jack and I are into our third year and it is definitely proving to be the toughest yet. I think we have had some unfortunate outside circumstances this year that have contributed to the difficulty of it, but are those type of circumstances ever not going to exist?
marriage. is. difficult.
It can so easily be strengthened, but so easily destroyed. It takes nurturing, sacrifice, struggle, selflessness, patience, and so much love. For the last 4 months I have watched my best friend fight for her marriage one day at a time. It has strengthened me and it has broken me. Her struggle has challenged me to dive deeper into my own marriage, but with diving comes trials. Trials that sometimes I feel are larger than me. Truth is they are larger than me, and I know without the grace of the Lord we would not be able to overcome them.
No relationship is perfect and that is what I am learning. I truly thought Jack and I could be different from others because our relationship was so easy. I was incredibly naive to how easy I thought marriage could be. I did not know many people who had been divorced and those around me made it look so simple. What I have learned is that even when you “think” it is easy, it still needs nurturing. You always have to work at it, because if you don’t work at marriage it will fade away.
Jack and I are working one struggle at a time right now. Some days I feel defeated that the odds are against us, but I know we ARE different. We are different because we aren’t trying to make our marriage work alone but we are counting on Christ to keep us encouraged and growing in each other.
I take you, to be my husband, loving you now and as your grow and develop into ALL that God intends.
I WILL love you when we are together and when we are apart; when our lives are at peace and when they are in turmoil; when I am proud of you and when I am disappointed in you; in times of rest and in times of work. I will honor your goals and dreams and help you fulfill them.
From the depth of my being, I will seek to be open and honest with you. I say these things believing that GOD is in the midst of them all.